You may know why you choose unavailable people, why you tolerate too much, and why someone else’s silence can collapse your self-worth — and still do exactly what you promised yourself you would stop doing. I work where there is already enough explanation, but still not enough freedom.
You can bring dependency, rage, envy, shame, sexual fantasies, vindictiveness, emptiness, and the need to feel exceptional into therapy. Including when this is not about one isolated problem, but about a personality disorder or severe personality pathology. I do not need you to look better. I need us to be able to see the truth — and not turn away from you because of it.
You may be highly reflective, read psychology, and even know where your reactions come from. But when a feeling becomes a matter of love, worth, or loss, the old way of surviving once again becomes more convincing than what you know.
It will not. Leaving while you still love someone means becoming the author of the loss yourself — and admitting that hope may never justify the pain invested in it. So the psyche waits for another ending: one in which the other person’s choice finally proves that you did not suffer for nothing.
A reply, silence, betrayal, admiration, or withdrawal stops being merely an event between two people. It becomes a verdict on you as a whole: are you good enough to be chosen — and not abandoned?
As long as the other person has to be won, desire stays alive. When closeness becomes real, boredom, irritation, shame, disgust, or the urge to disappear may arrive — as though safety and eroticism cannot exist in the same room.
Envy. Hatred. Vindictiveness. The desire for power. Sexual fantasies. The need to be exceptional. What is frightening is not only the feelings themselves — but the fear that, after seeing them, someone will stop believing you are a person who can be loved.
Admiration turns into contempt, closeness into disgust, intensity into emptiness. Each state arrives as the final truth and erases the memory that, only yesterday, the truth was different.
Work, intelligence, appearance, and achievement may remain stable for years. Then one rejection, comparison, or absence of admiration — and along with the other person’s gaze, your own sense of worth seems to disappear.
You know the causes, the defenses, your attachment style, and your favorite traumas. But knowledge somehow does not enter the room with you when you are not chosen. Which means what is needed is not the next insight, but a different relational experience.
A new partner, another city, a new life — and after a while the same familiar scene returns: you are unseen, abandoned, engulfed, used. Or you destroy the bond first so you do not have to wait for the same ending.
I work with personality disorders and severe personality pathology — when the difficulty cannot be reduced to anxiety, a breakup, or “low self-esteem.” What suffers is the very capacity to maintain a sufficiently coherent sense of self, tolerate intense affect, and experience the other person as complex rather than only as salvation or threat.
This is more than sensitivity to other people’s opinions. Self-esteem, desires, values, and the sense of who you are may shift sharply with the attitude of a significant other — as though a stable self cannot quite exist without an external reflection.
Rage, shame, fear of abandonment, or emptiness are not merely intense — they erase everything that came before. In that moment it becomes difficult to remember that the state will pass, and that the other person is more than who they seem to be right now.
The other person quickly becomes either indispensable and ideal, or dangerous, worthless, and alien. Relationships swing between fusion, dependency, attack, devaluation, and disappearance.
Criticism, rejection, comparison, or the absence of admiration may be experienced as a collapse of the self — with rage, revenge, total withdrawal, or a desperate attempt to regain control and restore a sense of worth.
When the other person moves away, it can feel as though you disappear. When they come too close, it can feel as though you disappear inside them. Between abandonment and engulfment, almost no space remains for a calm bond.
A sudden breakup, risk, sex, alcohol, self-harm, an attack on the relationship or on yourself can change an unbearable state instantly. The work does not begin with morality. It begins with the moment that has not yet had time to become a thought.
I work with borderline, narcissistic, histrionic, dependent, paranoid, schizoid, schizotypal, and antisocial personality disorders — including cases at different degrees of severity within borderline personality organization. I also work with the more preserved patients at a psychotic level of personality organization when their condition allows for outpatient online psychotherapy.
Recurring crises, self-destructive actions, and intense dependency can all become material for therapy. But in the presence of an immediate threat to life or a condition requiring urgent medical care, scheduled online psychotherapy is not a substitute for emergency help where you are.
You can understand yourself — until it becomes too important. When things are calm, everything is obvious. In closeness, jealousy, shame, or fear of loss, the old logic takes over again.
“Just tell me what to do” is not enough for you. You want to understand why this particular way of loving, protecting yourself, desiring, or destroying once became necessary — and why it still insists on being repeated.
You are afraid of being a “too difficult” patient. Intense dependency, aggression, contradiction, and sexuality do not make me reduce a person to a diagnosis or a moral judgment.
You want changes that can survive real intimacy. Not clarity for one hour after a session, but freedom of choice precisely when the other person matters and the stakes are high.
Name what you never tell anyone. Understand why the psyche needed it. And be frightened neither of you nor of what we find.
Not romanticize what is destructive. Not shame you for it. Make it thinkable enough that it no longer runs your life from the dark.
I do not put a person into three separate boxes. TFP, MBT, and contemporary psychoanalysis can all meet within one therapy. But each notices a different moment — and each returns freedom in a different way where there used to be only one automatic reaction.
How these versions arise not only in relationships “out there,” but right here between us. When splitting becomes visible in the moment, there is finally a chance not to be completely taken over by it.
We slow down the fraction of a second between an event and certainty. We do not dismiss intuition and we do not force you to “think more positively.” We restore several possible versions where one guess has already become a fact.
Sometimes an experience has not yet become a feeling that can be named. It arrives as emptiness, the body, boredom, action, chaos, or a strange atmosphere between us. First, we create a place where it can be borne. Then — felt, imagined, and thought.
Sometimes there is nothing more for a person to “realize”: the experience has not yet been organized into a form that can be felt, held, and thought. It arrives through the body, action, emptiness, chaos — or emerges between us before it has words.
Post-Winnicottian tradition for me, is first of all about an environment in which one can need and separate, become angry without destroying the bond, be spontaneous, play, and gradually find one’s own desire beneath the habit of adapting.
The experience of the “good-enough mother” matters here too — not as the therapist taking on the role of a mother, but as the experience of a good-enough other: alive, separate, imperfect, able to withstand dependency, frustration, and ruptures in contact without requiring you to be convenient. What is first held together by two people gradually becomes an internal psychic function of your own.
The Bionian line is about containment: the possibility of bringing what still feels too raw, chaotic, or unbearable and, rather than getting rid of it, transforming it together into an experience that can be linked, named, and thought.
Post-Bionian approaches also make it possible to listen to the analytic field: what is born not only “inside the patient,” but between two people — in silence, boredom, tension, images, ruptures, and an unexpectedly emerging way of being with one another.
There is more psychic space: a feeling can be experienced without immediately becoming an action; intimacy can be endured without disappearing; need can be felt without falling apart; disappointment can be borne without destroying the other. And you can remain yourself beside another person who is alive and separate.
Not endless softness. An experience of a bond that can survive dependency, anger, frustration, and separation — and does not require you to give yourself up in order to preserve the other person.
Not only explaining yourself, but trying, fantasizing, being surprised, and finding a living desire where adaptation used to do all the work.
What used to exist as unbearable arousal, bodily experience, action, or emptiness gradually acquires emotional form and becomes available to thought.
Sometimes meaning is born between us before it becomes a story. We do not rush to name it — first we bear and investigate what has appeared in the contact itself.
Past relationships enter the present and the therapy. This is an important lens — but not all of psychoanalysis, and not the only centre of my work.
A good interpretation does not have to be immediate. Sometimes precision appears only after we have resisted filling the unknown with a ready-made explanation for long enough.
So instead of testimonials about someone else’s therapy, I offer what can actually be verified: relevant education, international training, continuous professional development, supervision, personal therapy, and clear boundaries of the work.
And none of this cancels the most important thing: you are choosing the therapist too. The first session is not only for me to understand your request. It is for you to understand me.
I am completing the official certification pathway in Transference-Focused Psychotherapy with ISTFP. Status — in progress.
I am completing the official training and certification pathway in Mentalization-Based Treatment at the Anna Freud Centre. Status — in progress.
So that difficult work is not left alone with my blind spots. Clinical questions are regularly thought through within a professional supervisory frame.
I am in personal therapy. A therapist also brings themselves into the room — and has a responsibility to know sufficiently well what exactly they are bringing.
I continue advanced training with leading psychoanalysts: clinical courses, seminars, and programs that keep living practice from turning into theory learned once and never revisited.
I take specialized courses and programs developed by Yale University, Harvard University, Stanford University, Duke University, Johns Hopkins University and other universities, as well as educational programs offered by professional associations — including the American Psychological Association (APA) and the European Association for the Development of Psychoanalysis and Psychotherapy (EARPP).
I do not publish client messages, quotes from sessions, or recognizable “anonymous cases.”
Social media is about psychic mechanisms and ideas, not the lives of my patients. The content of therapy remains confidential within professional and applicable legal obligations.
When the task is to see not only a symptom, but an entire way of being with yourself and another person: how you love, defend yourself, need, become angry, desire, and keep arriving at the same familiar ending.
When the argument stopped being about the thing you are arguing about a long time ago. One partner demands closeness, the other survives through distance — and each responds not to the partner, but to their own version of the partner’s intentions.
When your habitual way of relating stops being a story about relationships and appears directly in the room: in attraction, competition, rescuing, disappearance, control, and the expectation that another person will provide the impossible.
Here your habitual way of organizing relationships becomes visible in real time: someone needs to become indispensable, someone disappears before they can be rejected, someone rescues, seduces, competes, or tests the other person’s love to the limit. This is not a “discussion club.” These are relationships you can see before they become fate again.
“Let me be unbearable to live with — as long as living without me is even worse.”
For people whose clinical picture prominently includes narcissistic, histrionic, or borderline personality disorder / corresponding personality pathology at a borderline level of personality organization: when closeness quickly becomes a matter of life and death, the other person is both indispensable and unbearable, and feelings are too large to simply “pull yourself together.”
“I want to be found, but I do everything to make it impossible to reach me.”
For people whose clinical picture prominently includes schizoid, schizotypal, or paranoid personality disorder / corresponding personality pathology at a borderline level of personality organization: when there is a powerful wish to be found — and, at the same time, a need to do everything possible to keep anyone from coming too close.
“I no longer wait for you to stop hurting me. I wait for the pain to prove one day that you did love me after all.”
For those who already understand that the relationship is destructive, but still wait for compensation from it: for the pain to prove love, for endurance to pay off, and for the other person’s choice to cancel every humiliation and loss.
“I do not want to return to a country. I want to return to the life in which I still had a home.”
For those who left not only a country, but a previous version of themselves: when home remains in several places at once — and none of them feels entirely yours anymore.
An individual meeting before joining the group. Not an exam and not a selection of “good patients”: we look at whether this format is right for you — and whether you are right for this group. The first individual meeting is 60 minutes and free of charge.
Participation fee — 5,000 ₽ per session with monthly payment. When paying for a 3-month package upfront, a 30% discount applies — equivalent to 3,500 ₽ per session.
So the basic terms are here from the start. No “price in DMs,” and no need to first prove that your request is serious enough.
The first session is 60 minutes and free of charge. The regular fee for subsequent individual therapy is 10,000 ₽ per session.
Package paymentThe regular fee for a couples session is 15,000 ₽. We do not work on “who is right,” but on what the couple keeps creating between them.
Package paymentThe base participation fee is 5,000 ₽ per session with monthly payment.
Package paymentThe total price of a 3-month package depends on the schedule of the specific group.
For those who need help now but are not currently able to pay the full fee. I reserve a limited number of social-rate places for individual and couples work with a discount of up to 50%.
At the maximum discount: an individual session is 5,000 ₽ / 60 minutes instead of 10,000 ₽; a couples session is 7,500 ₽ / 90 minutes instead of 15,000 ₽.
The condition of the social rate is booking strictly on designated days and times. Current days, available discount level, and open slots can be requested in DMs.
Sessions are available in Russian or English. Choose the language in which it is easier to be precise — and alive enough to say more than what you have already learned to explain well.
Payment is available in Russian rubles, euros, US dollars, and Turkish lira. Transfers can be made to accounts in Russia, the EU, or Turkey; I also accept bank transfer via IBAN, Revolut, and PayPal.
My schedule includes slots on weekdays and weekends — mornings, afternoons, evenings, and even at night. When booking, simply tell me your time zone and a few convenient windows: we will find an overlap without requiring you to live on Moscow or European time.
It matters to me to see not one “problem,” but the whole person: personality structure, relationships, the clinical picture, sexuality — and the way all of this becomes alive between us rather than remaining a list of terms.
Psychoanalytic education.
Master’s degree in Psychology · Psychoanalysis track.
Clinical Psychology.
Sexology.
You can write in detail. You can write one sentence. You can simply send the thought from Threads that made it clear you no longer want to keep reading — you want to talk.
60 minutes on Zoom, free of charge. We look at what is happening, which format might help — and what begins to happen between us in the contact itself.
If we continue, we agree on frequency, time, language, boundaries, and a convenient method of payment. If not, you do not need to explain or justify anything. Fit is part of therapy too.
No. You can come with the feeling that “some kind of damn thing is happening to me again.” A diagnosis can be part of clinical understanding, but it does not replace the person and it is not an admission ticket to therapy.
Yes. This is one of the central parts of my practice. I work with borderline, narcissistic, histrionic, dependent, paranoid, schizoid, schizotypal, and antisocial personality disorders — including severe cases at a borderline level of personality organization. I also work with more preserved patients at a psychotic level of personality organization when their condition allows for outpatient online psychotherapy. Identity diffusion, splitting, idealization and devaluation, narcissistic collapse and rage, impulsivity, chronic emptiness, fear of abandonment or engulfment, self-destructive actions, and recurring crises may become central in therapy. You may come with an existing diagnosis or without one. If there is an immediate threat to life, emergency help where you are comes first.
No — which is exactly why the site says “in progress” everywhere. I am completing the official TFP certification pathway with ISTFP and the official MBT training / certification pathway at the Anna Freud Centre. I do not claim a completed status before completing the requirements.
No. A psychoanalytic way of thinking about a person is broader than one setting. We choose the format according to the task; deep psychoanalytically oriented work can also take place online, face to face.
It does not mean the therapist becomes your mother. It is the experience of a good-enough other: someone beside whom you can need, become angry, feel disappointed, separate, and not lose the bond. What is first held by two people gradually becomes more and more your own capacity.
You do not have to. The past matters only where it continues to organize the present. Sometimes the main material is not a memory, but what is happening right now with the body, desire, relationships, or between us in the session.
Yes. Envy, aggression, dependency, sexuality, fantasies, vindictiveness, actions, and relationships that are frightening to talk about. To investigate is not the same as to approve. But without truth, therapy quickly becomes one more place where you have to perform a good version of yourself.
No. You can call me by my first name, swear, smoke, and even drink — that is fine with me. Therapy does not require good manners for their own sake. But anything that appears in a particular moment can become material for the work: why you suddenly wanted to smoke, pour a drink, become more informal with me, make a joke, go silent, or abruptly change the subject; what became difficult to bear, what you wanted to add between us — or what you needed protection from. The only boundary is that your state must still allow contact. If alcohol significantly changes your state and makes the work impossible, we will stop and look separately at what happened.
Not as content. I do not build my marketing on retellings of sessions, client correspondence, or recognizable “anonymous cases.” The professional and legal limits of confidentiality are discussed at the beginning of the work.
Then we do not continue. The first session is also there to test the contact. You do not have to convince yourself that a therapist is “objectively good” if you do not want to work with them.
Individual therapy is 10,000 ₽ for 60 minutes; couples therapy is 15,000 ₽ for 90 minutes; group therapy is 5,000 ₽ per session with monthly payment. For individual and couples therapy: a 5-session package gives 10% off each session, and a 10-session package gives 20% off each session. For group therapy, paying 3 months upfront gives a 30% discount. The first individual session is 60 minutes and free of charge.
They are a limited number of places for people who need help now but are not currently able to pay the full fee. The social rate applies to both individual and couples therapy, with a discount of up to 50%. At the maximum discount, an individual session is 5,000 ₽ / 60 minutes instead of 10,000 ₽, and a couples session is 7,500 ₽ / 90 minutes instead of 15,000 ₽. The condition is booking strictly on designated days and times. Current days, available discount level, and open slots can be requested in DMs.
Yes. Therapy is available in Russian or English. You can choose the language when booking; if you are not sure which will work better for therapy, we can discuss it in the first session.
That is not a problem. It does not matter to me which time zone you live in: there are slots on weekdays and weekends, in the morning, afternoon, evening, and even at night. When booking, tell me your city or UTC offset and a few convenient windows — we will find an overlap.
Payment is possible in Russian rubles, euros, US dollars, and Turkish lira. Transfers are available to accounts in Russia, the EU, and Turkey, as well as bank transfer via IBAN, Revolut, and PayPal. We will agree on the most convenient option before regular work begins.
Do not choose a method and do not prepare the “right request.” To begin, one action is enough: message me — or leave a request and let me message you.
Leave your name, a convenient way to contact you, a couple of words about what brings you, and when it is easier for you to meet. I will contact you myself shortly.
You do not need to tell your life story here. One or two sentences are enough. Diagnoses, documents, intimate details, and anything you do not want to leave in a form are better kept for the live conversation.
I offer educational and collegial formats on integrative work with severe personality disorders — where personality structure, level of functioning, transference, mentalization, containment, the field, and what happens to the therapist in the contact all matter at the same time.
Clinical focus: borderline, narcissistic, histrionic, schizoid, schizotypal, and paranoid personality disorders at a borderline level of personality organization — from more preserved to severe cases. Separately, work with more preserved patients at a psychotic level of personality organization when their condition allows for outpatient psychotherapy.
Clinical logic, integration of approaches, technique, frame, and the places in the work where a ready-made formula stops helping. There are paid and free webinars.
For colleagues who want to think together about method, clinical strategy, or a difficult part of the work. Individual consultations are paid. Current fees can be requested in DMs.
A space where you do not have to demonstrate the “correct technique,” but can think together about what is actually happening in the work.
1,000 ₽ / participantAt the request of patients or colleagues, an in-person “intensive camp” can be organized in Italy, Turkey, or Russia. The content, duration, group composition, and fee are designed around the specific request — therapeutic, educational, or collegial.
This format is not part of the permanent schedule and is organized separately on request. Details, possible dates, and participation terms are available in DMs.
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