You may know exactly why you choose unavailable people, why you put up with too much, and why someone else’s silence can make your self-worth collapse — and still do exactly what you promised yourself you would stop doing. I work at the point where there is already enough understanding, but still not enough freedom.
You can bring dependency, rage, envy, shame, sexual fantasies, vindictiveness, emptiness, and the need to feel exceptional into therapy — including when the issue is not one isolated problem, but a personality disorder or severe personality pathology. I do not need you to present a better version of yourself. I need us to be able to see the truth — and not turn away from you because of it.
You may be highly reflective, widely read in psychology, and even know where your reactions come from. But when a feeling becomes a matter of love, worth, or loss, the old way of surviving once again feels more convincing than everything you know.
It will not. Leaving while you still love someone means becoming the one who chooses the loss — and admitting that all the pain invested in hope may never pay off. So the psyche waits for another ending: one in which the other person’s choice finally proves that you did not suffer for nothing.
A reply, silence, betrayal, admiration, or withdrawal stops being merely an event between two people. It becomes a verdict on you as a whole: are you good enough to be chosen — and not abandoned?
As long as the other person still has to be won over, desire stays alive. When closeness becomes real, boredom, irritation, shame, disgust, or the urge to disappear may arrive — as though safety and eroticism cannot exist in the same room.
Envy. Hatred. Vindictiveness. The desire for power. Sexual fantasies. The need to be exceptional. What is frightening is not only the feelings themselves — but the fear that, after seeing them, someone will no longer see you as a person who can be loved.
Admiration turns into contempt, closeness into disgust, intensity into emptiness. Each state arrives as the final truth and erases the memory that, only yesterday, a different truth felt just as absolute.
Work, intelligence, appearance, and achievement may remain stable for years. Then one rejection, comparison, or absence of admiration — and along with the other person’s gaze, your own sense of worth seems to disappear.
You know the causes, the defenses, your attachment style, and your favorite traumas. But somehow that knowledge does not follow you into the room where you are not chosen. Which means what you need is not the next insight, but a different relational experience.
A new partner, another city, a new life — and after a while the same familiar scene returns: you are unseen, abandoned, engulfed, used. Or you destroy the bond first so you do not have to wait for the same ending.
I work with personality disorders and severe personality pathology — when the difficulty cannot be reduced to anxiety, a breakup, or “low self-esteem.” What suffers is the very capacity to maintain a sufficiently coherent sense of self, tolerate intense affect, and experience the other person as a complex human being rather than only as salvation or threat.
This is more than sensitivity to other people’s opinions. Self-esteem, desires, values, and your sense of who you are may shift sharply with the attitude of someone important — as though there is not enough of a stable self without being reflected back by someone else.
Rage, shame, fear of abandonment, or emptiness are not merely intense — they erase everything that came before. In that moment it becomes difficult to remember that the state will pass, and that the other person is more than who they seem to be right now.
The other person quickly becomes either indispensable and ideal, or dangerous, worthless, and alien. Relationships swing between fusion, dependency, attack, devaluation, and disappearance.
Criticism, rejection, comparison, or the absence of admiration may be experienced as a collapse of the self — with rage, revenge, total withdrawal, or a desperate attempt to regain control and restore a sense of worth.
When the other person moves away, it can feel as though you disappear. When they come too close, it can feel as though you disappear inside them. Between abandonment and engulfment, almost no space remains for a relationship that can simply feel safe.
A sudden breakup, risk, sex, alcohol, self-harm, an attack on the relationship or on yourself can change an unbearable state instantly. The work does not begin with morality. It begins with the moment that has not yet had time to become a thought.
I work with borderline, narcissistic, histrionic, dependent, paranoid, schizoid, schizotypal, and antisocial personality disorders — including cases across different degrees of severity within borderline personality organization. I also work with higher-functioning patients with psychotic personality organization when their condition is appropriate for outpatient online psychotherapy.
Recurring crises, self-destructive actions, and intense dependency can all become material for therapy. But if there is an immediate threat to life, or a condition requiring urgent medical care, planned online psychotherapy is not a substitute for emergency help where you are.
Four short self-assessment tests I designed — not a diagnosis and not a substitute for clinical assessment. They offer hypotheses about defenses, attachment, mentalization, and the part of you that takes over when intimacy becomes frightening or shameful.
Your dominant defensive routes and flexibility: what your psyche does first — and whether it can later return to reality.
Take the test ↗Where curiosity about your own mind and another person’s remains available — and what replaces it when the relationship becomes too important.
Take the test ↗Two dimensions — attachment anxiety and avoidance of closeness — and how their combination shapes what happens when the bond feels threatened.
Take the test ↗Not a “five-minute diagnosis,” but a possible defensive scenario: which part of you takes control first when closeness becomes dangerous.
Take the test ↗You understand yourself well — until the stakes become too high. When things are calm, everything is obvious. In closeness, jealousy, shame, or fear of loss, the old logic takes over again.
“Just tell me what to do” is not enough for you. You want to understand why this particular way of loving, protecting yourself, desiring, or destroying once became necessary — and why it still keeps repeating itself.
You are afraid of being a “too difficult” patient. Intense dependency, aggression, contradictions, and sexuality do not make me reduce a person to a diagnosis or a moral judgment.
You want changes that can survive real intimacy. Not clarity for one hour after a session, but freedom of choice precisely when the other person matters and the stakes are high.
To name what you never tell anyone. To understand why your psyche needed it. And not to be afraid of either you or what we find.
Not to romanticize what is destructive. Not to shame you for it. To make it thinkable enough that it stops running your life from the dark.
I do not put a person into three separate boxes. TFP, MBT, and contemporary psychoanalysis can all be part of the same therapy. But each notices a different moment — and each helps restore freedom at a different point where there used to be only one automatic reaction.
How these versions arise not only in relationships outside therapy, but right here between us. When splitting becomes visible in the moment, there is finally a chance not to be completely taken over by it.
We slow down the tiny gap between an event and certainty. We do not dismiss intuition, and we do not force you to “think more positively.” We restore several possible versions where one assumption has already hardened into fact.
Sometimes an experience has not yet become a feeling that can be named. It arrives as emptiness, bodily experience, boredom, action, chaos, or a strange atmosphere between us. First, we create a place where it can be borne. Then — felt, imagined, and thought.
Sometimes there is nothing more to “realize”: the experience has not yet been organized into a form that can be felt, held, and thought. It arrives through the body, action, emptiness, chaos — or emerges between us before it has words.
For me, the post-Winnicottian tradition is first and foremost about a relational environment in which you can need someone and separate from them, become angry without destroying the bond, be spontaneous, play, and gradually find your own desire beneath the habit of adapting.
The experience of the “good-enough mother” matters here too — not as the therapist taking on the role of a mother, but as the experience of a good-enough other: alive, separate, imperfect, able to withstand dependency, frustration, and ruptures in contact without requiring you to be convenient. What can initially only be held between two people gradually becomes an internal psychic capacity of your own.
Bionian thinking is about containment: the possibility of bringing what still feels too raw, chaotic, or unbearable and, instead of having to get rid of it, transforming it together into an experience that can be linked, named, and thought.
Post-Bionian approaches also make it possible to listen to the analytic field: what emerges not only “inside the patient,” but between two people — in silence, boredom, tension, images, ruptures, and unexpected ways of being together.
There is more psychic space: a feeling can be experienced without immediately becoming an action; intimacy can be endured without disappearing; need can be felt without falling apart; disappointment can be borne without destroying the other. And you can remain yourself beside another person who is alive and separate.
Not endless softness. An experience of a bond that can survive dependency, anger, frustration, and separation — and does not require you to give yourself up in order to preserve the other person.
Not only explaining yourself, but experimenting, fantasizing, being surprised, and discovering a living desire where adaptation used to do all the work.
What once existed as unbearable activation, bodily experience, action, or emptiness gradually takes on emotional form and becomes available to thought.
Sometimes meaning is born between us before it becomes a story. We do not rush to name it — first we bear and investigate what has appeared in the relationship itself.
Past relationships enter the present — and the therapy. This is an important lens, but it is not the whole of psychoanalysis, nor the only center of my work.
A good interpretation does not have to be immediate. Sometimes precision appears only after we have resisted filling the unknown with a ready-made explanation for long enough.
So instead of testimonials about someone else’s therapy, I offer what can actually be verified: relevant education, international training, continuous professional development, supervision, personal therapy, and clear boundaries of the work.
And none of this cancels the most important thing: you are choosing the therapist too. The first session is not only for me to understand your request. It is for you to understand me.
I am completing the official certification pathway in Transference-Focused Psychotherapy with ISTFP. Status — in progress.
I am completing the official training and certification pathway in Mentalization-Based Treatment at the Anna Freud Centre. Status — in progress.
So that difficult clinical work is not left alone with my blind spots. Clinical questions are regularly thought through within a professional supervisory setting.
I am in personal therapy. A therapist also brings themselves into the room — and has a responsibility to know, well enough, what they are bringing with them.
I continue advanced training with leading psychoanalysts: clinical courses, seminars, and programs so that clinical practice does not harden into theory learned once and never revisited.
I take specialized courses and programs developed by Yale University, Harvard University, Stanford University, Duke University, Johns Hopkins University and other universities, as well as educational programs offered by professional associations — including the American Psychological Association (APA) and the European Association for the Development of Psychoanalysis and Psychotherapy (EARPP).
I do not publish client messages, quotes from sessions, or recognizable “anonymous cases.”
My social media is about psychic mechanisms and ideas, not the lives of my patients. The content of therapy remains confidential within professional and applicable legal obligations.
I am very present — and very human — in therapy.
Not the kind of therapist in a crisp white shirt who spends forty-five minutes watching you with a blank expression and then mysteriously asks: “And what are you feeling right now?”
I see you. I meet your eyes. I notice a look, a pause, a movement, a change in your voice — what is happening in you right now, sometimes before it has had time to become words. And I can tell you what I notice.
I feel with you. I can feel sadness, anger, and pain with you; I laugh, I am surprised, I am glad. And no — I do not fall apart, however intense your feelings become.
I can say directly when something important is happening between us. I can simply stay beside you when you no longer have the strength to explain anything. I can comfort you. Sometimes, I can let you experience with me something you once desperately needed and did not have.
And sometimes I can stop you quite firmly at the point where any further softness would stop being care and become complicity in the way you are hurting yourself again.
At the same time, I am not going to make therapy about me. My feelings can become an instrument for understanding what arises between us — but you will not have to take care of me, guess my mood, or be a “good patient” for me to keep caring about you.
I am not particularly drawn to a model of therapy in which one person is cast as the wise adult and the other as a slightly defective child waiting to be fixed properly.
I do not need to make you smaller in order to be a good enough therapist. And I do not need to make myself smaller in order to leave enough room for you.
I may know more than you about some psychological mechanisms. You will always know more than I do about what it is like to be you. Real understanding is born somewhere between those two kinds of knowledge.
So you can argue with me. Disagree. Tell me I have completely missed the point. Be angry with me. Laugh with me. Feel ashamed of what you have just said. Be silent.
You can be illogical, contradictory, dependent, envious, sexual, vindictive, frightened, tender — sometimes all of it in a single session.
I am not especially interested in your most presentable version.
I am interested in the whole person — including the parts you are used to giving other people in tiny doses, or not showing at all.
And acceptance, for me, is not the patronizing “it’s all right, you are still a good person.” Sometimes the frightening parts really are frightening. Sometimes you have done something you will have to take responsibility for. Sometimes a part of you is capable of hurting both you and other people very deeply.
But I do not need to turn you into a monster in order to see what is destructive in you.
I can see your tenderness and your cruelty at the same time. Your strength and your helplessness. What you are proud of and what makes you want the ground to swallow you. And I do not have to choose one of these as the “real” version of you.
Perhaps that is why I am a warm therapist. Not because I intend to soothe and reassure you endlessly, but because I genuinely want to get as close as I can to what it feels like to be you, rather than decide what you ought to be.
And I come quite close.
Sometimes — frighteningly close. Under the skin. To the place where it becomes much harder to tell a polished story about yourself and you have to meet something real.
But not to pry you open for the sake of going deeper — only so that I can help.
I come closer exactly when, and exactly as far as, you want and are ready to let me in.
I will go with you to the places that are frightening to enter alone. Even to the place that feels as though there is no way out.
And when, deep in that thicket, the ground beneath us turns to swamp, you start to sink and pull me down with you — I will not let go of your hand or look away. But I will not climb in and drown with you either.
I will hold your hand and help you find solid ground. Even if at some point you decide that this very hand is to blame for everything — and start gnawing at it.
I will not bite back. I will not turn away. I will not leave you alone there. But I will not let us call destruction “acceptance” simply because I understand how much pain you are in.
And no — even the heaviest and most frightening parts of you will not make me stop caring about you.
I have enough strength and courage to go with you to the place where you no longer expect a way out — to stay beside you, keep hold of the path, and still lead us out of the thicket toward the light.
And no, I am not afraid of darkness.
Darkness is simply the other side of light.When the task is to see not only a symptom, but an entire way of being with yourself and another person: how you love, defend yourself, need, become angry, desire, and keep arriving at the same familiar ending.
When the argument stopped being about what you are supposedly arguing about a long time ago. One partner demands closeness, the other survives through distance — and each responds not to the partner, but to their own version of the partner’s intentions.
When your habitual way of relating stops being a story about relationships and appears directly in the room: in attraction, competition, rescuing, disappearance, control, and the expectation that another person will somehow give you the impossible.
Here your habitual way of organizing relationships becomes visible in real time: someone needs to become indispensable, someone disappears before they can be rejected, someone rescues, seduces, competes, or tests the other person’s love to the limit. This is not a “discussion club.” These are relationships you can see before they turn into fate again.
“Let me be unbearable to live with — as long as living without me is even worse.”
For people whose clinical picture is dominated by narcissistic, histrionic, or borderline personality disorder — or corresponding personality pathology within borderline personality organization: when closeness quickly becomes a matter of life and death, the other person is both indispensable and unbearable, and feelings are too intense to be solved by simply “pulling yourself together.”
“I want to be found, but I do everything to make it impossible to reach me.”
For people whose clinical picture is dominated by schizoid, schizotypal, or paranoid personality disorder — or corresponding personality pathology within borderline personality organization: when there is a powerful wish to be found and, at the same time, a need to do everything possible to keep anyone from coming too close.
“I no longer wait for you to stop hurting me. I wait for the pain to prove one day that you did love me after all.”
For those who already understand that the relationship is destructive, but still wait for it to compensate them for what it has cost: for pain to prove love, for endurance to pay off, and for the other person’s choice to cancel every humiliation and loss.
“I do not want to return to a country. I want to return to the life in which I still had a home.”
For those who left not only a country, but a previous version of themselves: when home remains in several places at once — and none of them feels entirely yours anymore.
An individual meeting before joining the group. Not an exam and not a selection of “good patients”: we look at whether this format is a good fit for you — and whether you are a good fit for this particular group. The first individual meeting is 60 minutes and free of charge.
Participation fee — 5,000 ₽ per session with monthly payment. When paying for a 3-month package upfront, a 30% discount applies — equivalent to 3,500 ₽ per session.
So the basic terms are here from the start. No “message me for the price,” and no need to prove first that your request is serious enough.
The first session is 60 minutes and free of charge. The regular fee for subsequent individual therapy is 10,000 ₽ per session.
Package paymentThe regular fee for a couples session is 15,000 ₽. We do not work on “who is right,” but on what the couple keeps creating between them.
Package paymentThe base participation fee is 5,000 ₽ per session with monthly payment.
Package paymentThe total price of a 3-month package depends on the schedule of the specific group.
For those who need help now but are not currently able to pay the full fee. I reserve a limited number of reduced-fee places for individual and couples work with a discount of up to 50%.
At the maximum discount: an individual session is 5,000 ₽ / 60 minutes instead of 10,000 ₽; a couples session is 7,500 ₽ / 90 minutes instead of 15,000 ₽.
The reduced fee is available only on designated days and times. Current days, available discount level, and open slots can be requested by direct message.
Sessions are available in Russian or English. Choose the language in which it is easier to be precise and alive — not merely good at explaining yourself.
Payment can be made in Russian rubles, euros, US dollars, and Turkish lira. Transfers can be made to accounts in Russia, the EU, or Turkey; I also accept bank transfer (IBAN), Revolut, and PayPal.
My schedule includes slots on weekdays and weekends — mornings, afternoons, evenings, and even at night. When booking, simply tell me your time zone and a few windows that work for you: we will find an overlap without forcing you into Moscow or Central European hours.
It matters to me to see not one “problem,” but the whole person: personality structure, relationships, the clinical picture, sexuality — and the way all of it comes alive between us rather than remaining a list of terms.
Psychoanalytic education.
Master’s degree in Psychology · Psychoanalysis track.
Clinical Psychology.
Sexology.
You can write in detail. You can write one sentence. You can simply send me the thought from Threads that made you realize you no longer want to keep reading about it — you want to talk about it.
60 minutes on Zoom, free of charge. We look at what is happening, which format might help — and what begins to happen between us as we talk.
If we continue, we agree on frequency, time, language, boundaries, and a convenient method of payment. If not, you do not need to explain or justify anything. Fit is part of therapy too.
No. You can come with the feeling that “the same damn thing is happening to me again.” A diagnosis can be part of clinical understanding, but it does not replace the person and it is not an entry requirement for therapy.
Yes. This is one of the central parts of my practice. I work with borderline, narcissistic, histrionic, dependent, paranoid, schizoid, schizotypal, and antisocial personality disorders — including severe cases at a borderline level of personality organization. I also work with higher-functioning patients with psychotic personality organization when their condition is appropriate for outpatient online psychotherapy. Identity diffusion, splitting, idealization and devaluation, narcissistic collapse and rage, impulsivity, chronic emptiness, fear of abandonment or engulfment, self-destructive actions, and recurring crises may become central in therapy. You may come with an existing diagnosis or without one. If there is an immediate threat to life, emergency help where you are comes first.
No — which is exactly why the site says “in progress” wherever these pathways are mentioned. I am completing the official TFP certification pathway with ISTFP and the official MBT training / certification pathway at the Anna Freud Centre. I do not claim a completed status before completing the requirements.
No. A psychoanalytic way of thinking about a person is broader than one setting. We choose the format according to the task; deep psychoanalytically oriented work can also take place online, in a face-to-face therapeutic relationship.
It does not mean the therapist becomes your mother. It is the experience of a good-enough other: someone you can need, be angry with, feel disappointed in, and separate from — without losing the bond. What first has to be held between two people can gradually become your own capacity.
You do not have to. The past matters only where it continues to organize the present. Sometimes the main material is not a memory, but what is happening right now with the body, desire, relationships, or between us in the session.
Yes. Envy, aggression, dependency, sexuality, fantasies, vindictiveness, actions, and relationships that are frightening to talk about. Exploring something is not the same as approving of it. But without truth, therapy quickly becomes one more place where you have to perform your “good” version.
No. You can call me by my first name, swear, smoke, and even drink — that is fine with me. Therapy does not require good manners for their own sake. But anything that appears in a particular moment can become material for the work: why you suddenly wanted to smoke, pour a drink, become more informal with me, make a joke, go silent, or abruptly change the subject; what became difficult to bear, what you wanted to put between us — or what you needed protection from. The only boundary is that your state must still allow contact. If alcohol significantly changes your state and makes the work impossible, we will stop and look at what happened in its own right.
Not as content. I do not build my marketing on retellings of sessions, client correspondence, or recognizable “anonymous cases.” The professional and legal limits of confidentiality are discussed at the beginning of the work.
Then we do not continue. The first session is also there to see how the contact feels. You do not have to convince yourself that a therapist is “objectively good” if you do not want to work with them.
Individual therapy is 10,000 ₽ for 60 minutes; couples therapy is 15,000 ₽ for 90 minutes; group therapy is 5,000 ₽ per session with monthly payment. For individual and couples therapy: a 5-session package gives 10% off each session, and a 10-session package gives 20% off each session. For group therapy, paying 3 months upfront gives a 30% discount. The first individual session is 60 minutes and free of charge.
They are a limited number of places for people who need help now but are not currently able to pay the full fee. The reduced fee applies to both individual and couples therapy, with a discount of up to 50%. At the maximum discount, an individual session is 5,000 ₽ / 60 minutes instead of 10,000 ₽, and a couples session is 7,500 ₽ / 90 minutes instead of 15,000 ₽. The condition is booking only on designated days and times. Current days, available discount level, and open slots can be requested by direct message.
Yes. Therapy is available in Russian or English. You can choose the language when booking; if you are not sure which will work better for therapy, we can discuss it in the first session.
That is not a problem. It does not matter to me which time zone you live in: there are slots on weekdays and weekends, in the morning, afternoon, evening, and even at night. When booking, tell me your city or UTC offset and a few convenient windows — we will find an overlap.
Payment is possible in Russian rubles, euros, US dollars, and Turkish lira. You can pay to accounts in Russia, the EU, or Turkey, by bank transfer (IBAN), Revolut, or PayPal. We will agree on the most convenient option before regular work begins.
You do not need to choose a method or prepare the “right request.” To begin, one action is enough: message me — or leave your details and let me contact you.
Leave your name, a convenient way to contact you, a couple of words about what brings you, and a few times that work for you. I will contact you myself shortly.
You do not need to tell your life story here. One or two sentences are enough. Diagnoses, documents, intimate details, and anything you do not want to leave in a form are better kept for the session itself.
I offer educational and peer consultation formats focused on integrative work with severe personality disorders — where personality structure, level of functioning, transference, mentalization, containment, the field, and the therapist’s own emotional responses within the relationship all matter at the same time.
Clinical focus: borderline, narcissistic, histrionic, schizoid, schizotypal, and paranoid personality disorders within borderline personality organization — from higher-functioning to more severe presentations. I also work with higher-functioning patients with psychotic personality organization when their condition is appropriate for outpatient psychotherapy.
Clinical logic, integration of approaches, technique, the therapeutic frame, and the points in the work where a ready-made formula stops being useful. There are paid and free webinars.
For colleagues who want to think together about method, clinical strategy, or a difficult clinical situation. Individual consultations are paid. Current fees are available by direct message.
A space where you do not have to demonstrate the “correct technique,” but can think together about what is actually happening in the clinical work.
1,000 ₽ / participantAt the request of patients or colleagues, an in-person intensive can be arranged in Italy, Turkey, or Russia. The content, duration, group composition, and fee are designed around the specific request — therapeutic, educational, or professional.
This format is not part of the regular schedule and is organized separately on request. Details, possible dates, and participation terms are available by direct message.
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